The Pakistani community in the United Kingdom is large and varied, with families who arrived decades ago, their children and grandchildren born in Britain, and newer arrivals who came to study or work. Families in cities such as London, Birmingham, Manchester, Bradford, Glasgow and Leicester often look for a rishta both in the UK and in Pakistan. My Rishta Pakistan is free to use, and this page explains what is useful to think about.

Who this page is for

It is for British Pakistanis and Pakistanis living in the UK, for parents in Pakistan who are considering a proposal from the UK, and for relatives helping a family member. A profile should only be made with the person’s knowledge and consent.

Things UK families often discuss first

• Different experiences of growing up. Someone raised in Britain and someone raised in Pakistan may have different habits, expectations and ways of talking about family. This is normal, but it is better to talk about it openly before engagement.
• Where the couple will live. Will they live in the UK, in Pakistan, or move between the two? If one person will join the other, the immigration rules matter. Check the current rules on the official UK government website (GOV.UK) and, if needed, ask a regulated immigration adviser. Rules change, so please do not rely on old information.
• Work, education and independence. Talk about careers, further study, working after marriage and how the couple will manage household responsibilities.
• Family involvement. Some families want to be closely involved in decisions; others prefer more independence for the couple. Discuss what each side expects.

Consent comes first

A marriage must be entered into with the free and full consent of both people. Nobody should be pressured, threatened or tricked into a marriage, in the UK or in Pakistan. If you are worried that you or somebody you know is being forced into a marriage, in the UK you can contact the UK Government’s Forced Marriage Unit or the police. In an emergency, call the emergency services.

How to search step by step

1. Create an honest profile. Include your city, education, work, languages and what you want in a partner. Do not post your address or document numbers.
2. Browse and shortlist. Read profiles carefully and keep a small list that matches your plans for where to live and what kind of family life you want.
3. Talk to your family. Share the shortlist with parents or trusted relatives and ask for their honest opinion.
4. Speak by call or video. Have several calm conversations, not just one, and speak about everyday life as well as big plans.
5. Verify. Ask relatives and friends in the UK and in Pakistan to confirm details about the person and the family.
6. Meet with family. Meet in a public place or at a family home, and take your time before you decide.

Staying safe

• Never pay anyone to arrange or confirm a rishta.
• Do not send money for a visa, ticket, fee, deposit or “urgent” problem to someone you have not met through family.
• Be careful if a profile avoids video calls or asks for personal documents early.
• Never share bank details, card numbers or OTP codes.
• Report suspicious profiles via the report option or our contact page.

Frequently asked questions

Can I use My Rishta Pakistan from the UK?

Yes, registration and browsing are free from anywhere.

Do you help with spouse visas?

No. We are a free introduction service. For visas, use official UK government information or a regulated adviser.

Can I look for a partner in Pakistan from the UK?

Yes. Many families do. Involve your family in Pakistan, meet in person if you can, and take enough time before deciding.

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