By My Rishta Pakistan · Updated
How to write a respectful rishta proposal for a girl or a boy, with a simple example, and how to reply politely to a proposal you receive.
A first message can shape how a family feels about a proposal. Whether you are writing a rishta proposal for a girl or a rishta proposal for a boy, a polite, clear and honest message helps both families.
What to include in a proposal
- Your name, your relationship to the person (parent, sibling or the person themselves), and city.
- Age, education and work, in plain words.
- A short line about family background and values.
- What you are looking for, in simple, realistic terms.
- A polite closing and how to reach you.
Proposal for a girl
Families writing for a daughter or sister should describe her education, work or plans, and interests, and what kind of family they hope to meet. Each woman is different: some are career-focused, some prefer home life. Respect for her choice is more important than labels. A phrase such as gharelu larki (a homely girl) means different things to different families, so describe what you mean in simple words rather than using a label.
Rishta proposal for boy
For a son or brother, describe his education, job, income stability in general terms, and family responsibilities. Say clearly where he lives, and whether he plans to stay or move. Honesty here prevents problems later.
A simple example
Assalam o Alaikum. I am writing on behalf of my sister, a 26-year-old teacher in Lahore with a master’s degree. We are a close family and value respect and education. We are looking for a well-mannered, educated partner from a respectful family. Please let me know if you would like to share details. JazakAllah.
How to reply
If you are interested, reply politely and ask for a biodata (see what to include). If you are not, reply kindly. Our guide on how to say no to a rishta politely gives simple wording.
Stay safe
Do not share your CNIC, address or financial information in a first message. Read our safety tips / حفاظتی مشورے first.
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