By My Rishta Pakistan · Updated
Advice for Pakistanis abroad and families in Pakistan on finding a rishta across countries: expectations, verification, visas and timelines.
Many Pakistanis living in the UK, USA, Canada, the Gulf, Europe or Australia look for a rishta from Pakistan, and many families in Pakistan look for matches abroad. These cross-country rishtas can work very well when both sides plan carefully.
Be clear about expectations early
Discuss where you want to live after marriage, how often you will visit family, whether the spouse will work and how long a move may take. Mismatched expectations are the most common reason for problems later.
Understand the visa process
Spouse visas have rules, costs and waiting times that differ by country. Check the official government website of the country concerned, and do not rely only on what a match or an agent tells you. Plan for months, not weeks.
Verify carefully
- Do a video call before any meeting and speak to the family.
- Check the person’s status abroad (citizen, resident or student) and their work through trusted people.
- Ask a relative in Pakistan to visit the family and meet in person.
- Never send money or documents before meeting and checking.
Handle time zones and distance
Agree on regular times to talk and keep conversations respectful and family-friendly. Families can arrange the first meeting when the overseas partner visits Pakistan, or when a family member travels.
Plan the nikah and the move
Decide where the nikah will take place, who attends and how paperwork will be completed. Keep copies of all documents and follow official legal steps for both countries.
Prepare for adjustment
Moving to a new country is a big change. Talk about language, work, friends and family support so the move is smooth for the spouse who relocates.
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