Receiving a marriage proposal is exciting and sometimes stressful. This guide explains how rishta proposals usually work in Pakistan, how to respond respectfully, and how to decide with your family. MyRishta.pk is a free service run by the non-profit My Rishta Pakistan in Shahdara, Lahore.
How a proposal usually begins
Most proposals start through relatives, friends, a rishta aunty or an online service. A family shares biodata (age, education, work, family details) and, often, a photo. Both sides then ask around, and if there is interest, the families meet. Online platforms follow the same pattern but make the first step easier. You can browse female proposals and male proposals on MyRishta.pk.
What a good biodata contains
- Full name, age, height and marital status.
- Education and current work.
- Family details: parents’ work, number of siblings, family city.
- City of residence and willingness to relocate.
- Expectations in a few honest lines.
Avoid long lists of demands. Short, respectful expectations get better replies.
How to reply to a proposal
If you are interested
Reply politely, thank the family and suggest a call or meeting with elders present. Ask for any missing basic details.
If you are not interested
Say no clearly and kindly. A short, respectful reply is better than silence, and families remember good manners.
If you are unsure
Ask for time to talk with your family. A few days is reasonable; do not leave a family waiting for weeks.
Checks before you say yes
- Confirm age, education and work through relatives or workplace contacts.
- Meet in a family setting, not alone, for the first time.
- Be honest about health, finances, expectations of living arrangements and work after marriage.
- Take your time. A good rishta can wait for a careful decision.
Proposals from abroad
Families abroad often approach Pakistani families through online services. Be extra careful: meet on video, confirm identity and family through trusted relatives, and never pay money in advance for visas, travel or “paperwork”. See rishta for overseas Pakistanis and our notice on fake accounts.
Divorced and second marriage proposals
A divorced or widowed person deserves the same respect and honesty as anyone else. Our divorced rishta section helps families find suitable proposals.
Frequently asked questions
How many proposals should we consider?
There is no fixed number. Consider each one on its merits and avoid comparing people unfairly.
Should the girl and boy speak before the families agree?
Many families allow a supervised conversation or video call after initial interest. Follow your family’s values and keep elders informed.
What if a proposal asks for money first?
Stop contact and report it to us. Genuine families do not ask for money before meeting.
Where can I find proposals in my city?
Start with Lahore, Karachi, Islamabad and Rawalpindi or the Pakistan rishta page, or create a free profile so families can find you.